How to Love Yourself and Be Confident — Post Breakup

Updated: Dec 5, 2021

Healing and moving forward with your life after experiencing a devastating breakup may seem at first like an uphill battle; especially if your relationship was toxic and you realize that your ex-partner illustrated narcissistic behavior. As a result, you may have experienced what is known as trauma bonding and if this is the case knowing how to love yourself and be confident will challenge you to have an incredible amount of patience, love and kindness towards yourself as you begin your healing journey post-breakup is extremely important.

Trauma bonding usually occurs between two people in an intimate relationship when one partner takes advantage of or emotionally abuses the other partner; while appearing to care for and love their significant other; which is also known as love-bombing. When this happens over a prolonged period, you will naturally experience feelings of low self-worth, distorted self-image, and a fractured self-esteem.

However, regardless if you have experienced the ending of a toxic relationship from a narcissist or some other toxic personality type or you are having an extremely difficult time bouncing back from a devastating breakup, there are several self-care practices you can start doing today to set you up for a positive healing and recovery journey moving forward post-breakup.

Accept reality and let go

Now that the relationship is over, you must come to terms with this outcome regardless of whether you feel as though things could have worked out between the two of you. Acceptance of the reality that your ex no longer wants to be with you can be heart-wrenching; however, the longer you hold onto the ‘what if’s’ of this relationship, only keeps you stuck ruminating over everything that could have been. Find the courage to let go and allow your recovery and healing journey to begin.

Enforce the no-contact rule with a plan to heal

Often times when we intend on completely severing ties with our ex, it’s haphazardly executed from an unrealistic perspective. No-contact in theory is one thing, but following through with enforcing your no-contact rule daily is a completely different ball game. You must be mentally, spiritually, and emotionally prepared to enforce your no-contact rule, so that when you are tempted to text your ex or stalk their social media profiles, you will be too busy focusing on your recovery and healing journey.