Check out the full podcast episode: What's Your POWER Word for 2023?
I can't believe 2022 is pretty much a wrap for us.
This year has been an interesting one for me. There has been quite a few ups and also a few low points for me this year, but I wouldn't trade those experiences for anything else because it taught me so much about myself in terms of my strengths and also weaknesses that I need to continue working on, but what the universe has also reminded me of this year is that our inner work will always be an ongoing one. A lot of my own inner work for the year of 2022 was mostly experienced in my personal relationships. My boundaries were consistently tested and needed constant reinforcement, but it also reminded me that it's okay to stand in my strength and protect my wellbeing when I feel I am being disrespected or not heard when voicing my opinion. Another recurring theme for me this year was the question of what have I been tolerating unnecessarily in my life versus what I am absolutely not willing to tolerate any longer moving into the year of 2023?
What have you unnecessarily tolerated in 2022?
Here's a tip for you, if you want to gauge how far you have come on your healing journey after experiencing a devastating breakup as a result of being in a toxic relationship create a freestyle list of everything you have been unnecessarily tolerating in your life; and I mean everything right down to the unhealthy eating and sleeping habits you've adapted to during the year; you'd be surprised at the littlest things we continuously tolerate eat up so much of our time or negatively impact our physical and mental health. After you've created your list, look it over and honestly ask yourself do I have the mental and emotional capacity to keep tolerating the same BS in the year of 2023?
I guarantee that you will want to start working on eliminating half of those unnecessary, pesky tolerations from your life moving forward. Whether that is creating more space for your morning or evening self care routine regardless of what other people need you to do for them in that moment, cutting out late night Netflix binges that's eating up way too much of your time that you could be devoting to your healing and recovery journey; or perhaps, you've slipped back into the destructive routine of secretly stalking your toxic ex online during the holiday season, when you could be devoting that time and energy to creating your vision board and setting intentional goals for the year of 2023...
I bet you thought the tolerations I've been talking about were about other people, which they are, but honestly ask yourself how have you been keeping yourself back on your healing journey by tolerating old, destructive habits that need to be eliminated from your life moving into the year of 2023? The new year is literally hours away and I want all of you to win big in the year of 2023. If you've been ducking and hiding from the inner work that you know you need to do, start with the list tolerations as a warm up. Pick three of your top pesky, annoying tolerations and commit to eliminating them from your life in the new year, I promise you it will be a game changer moving forward.
What's your 2022 word of reflection?
However, besides the tolerations and the ups and downs of 2022, if I were to sum up this year into one word it would be DETERMINED. Although I didn't accomplish everything on my list of goals for 2022 I got close enough. Some days felt like it was an uphill battle and other days I felt on top of the world, but through it all I was determined to accomplish two major goals one of them being to finally make the effort and take the time to getaway for my first solo self care retreat post breakup that I spoke about in season two, episodes 3 and episodes 4 and I'll link to those episodes if you haven't listened to them as yet. Trust me, it was a long time coming and definitely something I had been putting off for way too long.
What I've realized since the time of my own recovery and healing journey after experiencing a highly toxic and emotionally abusive relationship is that we can get caught up and so focused on doing all the 'things' required of us AKA the inner work to move on with our life post breakup that we sometimes forget about the simple pleasures of life, which is to explore, have fun, and yes treat ourselves to something special and even luxury; as a way to remind us that we are worth so much more than what we've been putting up with in our life since the breakup or divorce. I was determined to start exploring my life again from a new lens of being healed, rejuvenated in my spirit and ready to embrace all of who I have become as an empowered divine feminine post breakup after experiencing covert narcissistic abuse.
Make it a non-negotiable to do something special for yourself in 2023
My advice to you in the year of 2023 is to find that one thing that you absolutely miss doing for yourself, I don't care how mundane it is or grandiose but I want you to make the effort and be determined in your energy to make it happen for yourself. Do you miss dining out at a fancy restaurant with your friends or even perhaps solo by yourself? Then do it! Is there a new hairstyle you want to try in the year of 2023? Then do it! Is there a decadent, luxury spa retreat you've been dying to experience for yourself? Well my friend, you must be determined in your heart, spirit and energy to make it happen for yourself in the year 2023 and beyond.
You've been through enough and I think it's time you start celebrating yourself a little more in the year of 2023. Even if you don't have the necessary funds to do something elaborate, you can start by setting time out for yourself once a month and treat yourself to a manicure and pedicure at a swanky salon in your city, or why not indulge in a good book, a glass of wine and some peace and quiet one night a week. 2023 is your year of self care and yes a little self indulgence every now and then. I promise you it will be a game changer and I'll be speaking more about your spiritual upkeep and self care in season 3 of the Loving Ahead podcast.
What's your 2023 POWER word?
So, now that the year of 2022 is about to fade out what is going to be your POWER word for the year of 2023? A power word is a word that gives you inspiration and motivation during the challenging and difficult times of the year where you may lose sight of your new year goals, and feel tempted to give up and walk away from all that you have accomplished regardless of how small those accomplishments may seem to you. One of my power words for the year of 2023 is ENERGY! Reminding myself to put energy and passion behind everything I am doing in the year of 2023 regardless of how big or small the project might be that I am working on.
Having and needing the energy to get through the cold winter months here in Canada. Needing the energy to be present for the Loving Ahead community the best way I can be. Energy to successfully embrace the year of 2023 with renewed faith, optimism and clarity in achieving my personal and professional goals; the energy I speak of is the renewing energy of the universe, and that of my inner divine feminine that I will continuously nurture and rely upon to get me through the difficult, spotty moments of 2023. So, I will ask you again what is your POWER word for the year of 2023? What's going to be that one word or phrase that when you whisper it to yourself or write it down in your journal it triggers you in a positive way to get up and get moving? I don't know how long you've been on your healing and recovery journey after experiencing a toxic relationship, but we all need a little nudge from time to time to keep us in alignment with our highest and best intentions in the year of 2023 and your POWER word should do just that.
Here are a few suggestions to help get you inspired and motivated for the year of 2023 post breakup!
Embrace your inner strength to bounce back from adversity AKA your breakup.
Embrace the opportunity for personal growth and positive change - 2023 is ALL about the level-up.
Take control of your life and make choices that serve your well-being.
Face the challenges of the new year with bravery and determination. Try something new and out the box.
Free yourself from the constraints of a toxic relationship and rediscover your independence.
Embrace the chance to evolve into a stronger, healthier version of yourself.
Cultivate inner peace and tranquility as you navigate through the healing process.
Break free from the chains of toxicity and experience a newfound sense of freedom.
Gain a clear perspective on your life, values, and aspirations. Set NEW goals and take ACTION!
Extend compassion to yourself as you heal and understand your emotions.
Embrace the opportunity for a fresh start and a new chapter in your life TOXIC free.
Let your inner light shine through, illuminating a path of self-discovery and exploration.
Stay true to your principles and maintain a sense of moral and emotional integrity.
Look forward to the future with hope and positivity.
Use this time to explore and understand yourself on a deeper level. What do you want to achieve for yourself in the year of 2023?
Extend compassion not only to yourself but to others on their own journeys. Karma is a very real thing. How you treat others, will be reflected back at you.
Recognize your own agency in creating the life you desire. Stop conforming and keeping yourself small.
Treat yourself with the same kindness you would offer a friend in need. As the saying goes, treat people how you would expect to be treated.
Revitalize your spirit and energy by focusing on your self-care and reconnecting to your inner divine feminine.
Embrace your true self and live authentically without compromise.
Cultivate a deep and unconditional love for yourself.
Allow the healing process to be a cleansing and purifying experience.
Celebrate your independence and rediscover the joy of being self-sufficient.
Find gratitude in the lessons learned and the strength gained from the experience.
25. **BONUS Empowering Affirmations:**
Repeat positive affirmations to reinforce your strength, worth, and resilience each day.
I'll be delving deeper into cultivating your 2023 POWER word in the first Coffee & Chat weekly Zoom call of 2023 on January 15th 7:00 PM. If you haven't heard about my FREE Zoom Coffee & Chat sessions I invite you to check out season 2, bonus episode 3 and episode 15 for more info and registration details.
Happy New Year to all of you!
I hope you enjoyed this week's article and have gained some valuable information to help you move forward with confidence! As a Breakup and Wellness Coach, my work in this world is dedicated to supporting and helping women such as yourself to HEAL, RECLAIM and TRANSFORM your life after leaving a toxic relationship. Do reach out if you would like to discuss how I can support you on your journey of recovery, healing, and transformation.